23 Things I Learned at 23

A day before my birthday, I always write myself a letter outlining what I learned and took away from the year that was. I usually don’t publish it. But today, I will. 

23 Things I Learned At 23:

  1. A person’s toothache means more to them than an earthquake on the other side of the world that kills thousands. Understand the meaning behind this sentence. And you will easily make tons of money and have great relationships.
  2. Don’t appear too perfect. Highlight your imperfections because the degree of your success depends on your ability to sell yourself to the masses. If you appear too good, they won’t be able to relate to you. And will end up hating you.
  3. Pain + Reflection = Progress. Whenever you’re feeling down, start reflecting. And make changes. Every sad day is an opportunity to create one hundred happy days.
  4. Money isn’t the most important thing in the world. What matters is peace of mind. Then the quality of your relationships. Then the adventures and memories you create.
  5. You can destroy in a minute what took years to built.
  6. Put your self improvement above all else. Over money. Over family. Over everything. The better you make yourself, the more you’ll have to give to those around you.
  7. Every man is not an island. We are all one.
  8. The funniest people are the most depressed.
  9. If you get a weird vibe from someone, don’t dismiss it. Danger lies ahead.
  10. Once you’re making serious money, keep it to yourself. Tell people you only make 80% of what they make. They will love you because they’ll think they’re better than you. Let them. If they find out you actually make more, they’ll begin to resent you.
  11. Be + Do = Have
  12. 99% of what you think, say or do… doesn’t matter.
  13. Heaven lies at the feet of your mother.
  14. It’s better to aim for the moon and fail… than aim for the first rung of the ladder and succeed.
  15. If the achievement of a goal won’t considerably change your life, it’s not worth your time. (95% of people pursue goals that don’t transform the quality of their life. Be the 5% who ONLY take massive action).
  16. The most important thing in business is not liquidity or cash flow. It’s confidence.
  17. Massive persuaders run the world. The rest of us just live in it.
  18. The more lives you touch, the more money you make.
  19. You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life. Might as well befriend yourself and love yourself.
  20. Only your mom and your spouse will ask if you’re eating and sleeping and taking care of yourself properly. The rest of the world only cares about what you can do for them.
  21. Kill stress or it will kill you.
  22. See the world through the eyes of a child. See possibility and joy where the rest of the world sees fear and anxiety. And you will always come out on top.
  23. You create an extraordinary life by taking extraordinary risks. Greatness begins by making a decision that goes against the mold society carved out for you.

I’ve lived 23 years thinking the same thoughts, doing the same things, and chasing the same dreams. It has served me well.

But it hasn’t satisfied me. And that’s good I guess… because it’s important to never be satisfied with life. Growth. Progress. Potential. All that has ever mattered to me.

Yesterday I turned 24.

And my ambition now is to break free from all traps, from all limitations, from all fears, from all doubts, from all false constraints, and transcend…

Transcend into what?

Version 2.4 of myself… aka… the greatest version yet.

Tej Dosa
1:33 pm
Vancouver, BC

  • Brandon Leuangpaseuth

    Hey Amtej,

    Great post on life lessons that got me thinking about my life since I just turned 23.

    Discovered your blog after reading your guest post on Cloud Living.

    Love your copy and your articles. I feel like i can relate to them.

    Wishing you success,
    Brandon

    P.S. Happy belated

    • Tej Dosa

      Hey Brandon,

      Thank you for the kind words. Greatly appreciated.

      Happy belated birthday to you as well!