Everybody wants success, but the reality of the situation is majority of the people fail, whereas some go on to succeed.
The unsuccessful usually look at the successful and they tend to call them lucky. Now luck sure does have a lot to do with it, but the effort a successful person puts in is far greater than the luck they experience.
Luck comes from effort.
The harder you work, the luckier you get, but you already knew that.
Now let’s focus on the failures, the unsuccessful people, the people that go from one endeavor to another without really achieving anything major.
I’m always curious to learn from the flaws of others and after analyzing one unsuccessful fellow after another, I seem to have compiled a list of three major flaws that a great chuck of unsuccessful people seem to have in common.
I present to you these flaws below…
1. They place too much emphasis on the opinion of others instead of their own.
If you want to spot a failure, look for the person who is always asking others for advice.
Look for the person who puts the voice of others on a pedestal, instead of following his/her own heart.
The person who engages in such activities is destined to fail.
The reality is that all failures tend to be consumed with the opinion of others. If you want to succeed, you have to listen to your own inner voice and you got to give the rest of the world your middle finger. Simply put, there’s no room for anyone else’s opinion besides your own (unless you have a mentor or are receiving constructive criticism).
You see failures fail because from the get go they are not doing what they desire.
By listening to what others have to say, they let others sell them a dream.
Hence before they even begin, they have already failed.
If you’re not chasing your own dream, it’s going to be very tough to succeed.
People will sit there and tell you this and tell you that, they’ll tell you what you should be doing with your life and how you should act, but fuck them. This is your life and you only get one kick at the can so why would you let others control your life?
Stop letting others set your expectations. Set your own.
Listen to your own heart and do what you desire. If you don’t, not only will you fail, but you’ll create a miserable life.
A life worth living is a life that you create on your own terms.
Now let’s focus on the second major flaw all unsuccessful people share…
2. Setting realistic goals
Realistic goals = mediocrity
Unrealistic goals = greatness
It seems as if at the core, all unsuccessful people are pussies, they’re cowards.
They can’t risk failing, hence they aim low.
They are unwilling to take risks and hence they never achieve.
Why would you want to be realistic? Why set realistic goals?
Where would this world be if the great ones set realistic goals?
HECK THERE WOULD BE NO DAMN ELECTRICITY IF THIS WAS THE CASE.
Do you think Edison’s dream of creating electricity was realistic? HELL NO. But that sure didn’t stop him and it shouldn’t stop you from doing what you desire.
If you want to become the richest person in the world, go for it.
If you want to become an actor, go for it.
If you want to become the CEO of a fortune 500 company, go for it.
If you want to help eliminate poverty, go for it.
If you want to find the cure to cancer, go for it.
You see, you have to set big, daring, unrealistic goals.
Failures and unsuccessful people are simply too pussy to do so.
Instead of characterizing their life with greatness, they settle for mediocrity.
Instead of trying to become the greatest musician in the world, they settle for a safe, 9-5 gig.
Hence they fail from the jump.
This world was built by bold people, people who not only set unrealistic goals but people who had the balls to pursue their unrealistic dreams.
Unsuccessful people simply don’t have the balls and as a result they don’t amount to much. I mean sure, every now and then they experience some minor success that they can brag about to their wife and kids such as “oh look honey, my division had the most sales this term,” but in the grand scheme of things their minor successes don’t mean shit.
This is the case because realistic goals produce minor success.
Hence if you’re not aiming high, you’re not going to achieve anything major. As a result, unsuccessful people remain unsuccessful.
You see the problem is when a kid dreams and comes up with unrealistic goals, a teacher, parent, or loved one will be quick to tell that kid, “that’s unrealistic, come up with something else.” And hence that kid listens and gives up on his/her dream only to regret it after.
I know everyone tells you to set realistic goals and they do so because they have your best interest at heart, I mean chasing big scary goals is daunting and they don’t want you to deal with failure, but at the end of the day it comes down to what you want out of life.
Do you want to be extraordinary or do you want to be ordinary?
Extraordinary = unrealistic goals
Ordinary = realistic goals
Choose your path wisely.
And lastly, I present to you the third major flaw that all unsuccessful people seem to have in common…
3. They avoid doing what is needed in order to succeed
Unsuccessful people got a dream and they got a plan, but they just don’t take the right steps to bring their plan to reality.
They’re not willing to do what is required in order to succeed.
They’re not willing to spend all night in the studio recording music, they are not willing to put in time after work to launch a business, they are unwilling to do what is needed in order to see success.
They fall victim to shiny objects, instead of remaining focused and driven they let distractions get in the way.
They just make it look as if they’re working, they may be putting in hours, but they have nothing to show for.
This is the case because they tend to spend time on the wrong things.
They have working hard and working smart confused.
You can spend ten hours doing some pointless activity and you can trick your mind into thinking that you put in work, but you really didn’t put in work. Instead you just spent your time on tasks that don’t create results such as checking email and things of that nature.
Unsuccessful people don’t spend time on the right things because they let fear and doubts get in the way of the actions that they need to take.
The actions that are required to succeed will put you in a state of discomfort.
Success comes from discomfort.
Any action that has the potential to create success will make you uncomfortable.
It doesn’t matter what type of success you are after, you will feel uncomfortable.
Whether it be approaching a good looking female or trying to create a hit album, you’re going to be put in a state of discomfort.
Unsuccessful people hate this feeling, whereas the successful learn to love it.
Your odds of succeeding in life are contingent on you being able to work from a state of discomfort.
Well there you have it, those are the reasons why someone flies whereas another crumbles.
I hope you can get real with yourself and if you find yourself to be characterized with one or more of the flaws listed above, do everything in your power to eliminate it. After all, your chances of succeeding in life depend on you doing so.