The path to success is going to be filled with much adversary equipped with people’s remarks that are just trying to bring you down. These remarks are very common when you are chasing something that other people don’t want you to acquire. The hate you will receive from chasing your dreams is going to be there no matter what type of dreams you are chasing. People are always going to have something to say and it is typically negative. Therefore it is very important that you don’t let this get to your head and you don’t let the negative remarks of others discourage you from pursuing your dreams.
Ultimately you need to let it go in one ear and out the other ASAP. Of course this is much easier said than done. However, hopefully by the end of this article you learn some practical tips which you can apply to your life the next time a hater attempts to bring you down to their level. Since this is exactly what they are trying to do. They notice you are on a much higher level than they are so they try to get a hold of your legs and bring you down by uttering negative statements. Never give in to this type of behavior because if you do and you start to listen to these people there objective of bringing you down will be complete. You have to remain lifted with your head to the sky and your eyes on your the prize. You cannot let your eyes wander off the target for even a minute because that minute may just cost you your chance of becoming successful.
Hence, it is a must that you develop thick skin to overcome all the remarks you are to be presented with. For people who don’t have thick skin they usually let the comments made by others get them off their game. People spend so much time thinking about what others say that they don’t spend time thinking about themselves and their dreams.
Whereas, a thick skin person always puts their goals and aspirations first and doesn’t take to heart what anybody says, including the people closest to them. Although, as hard as it may be to digest, the ones closest to you are ultimately the ones who are going to be making negative comments to get you to quit chasing your dreams. The reason for this is obvious. They don’t want things to change and you becoming successful brings about the insecurities they have about themselves. They never became successful so in return they don’t want you to become successful. With all this in mind, let’s get to learning the tips that will lead you to being unaffected the next time you come into contact with a person who is constantly making hateful comments.
How To Develop Thick Skin
The first critical step is to know what it is that you want. This is the main reason why thick skin people possess thick skin. The reason for this being is they know exactly what they want and they won’t let the statements of others get them off their path.
On the other hand, the people who lack thick skin are usually the ones who get swayed by the opinions of others and get depressed and down on themselves because they do not know what it is that they exactly desire. They may have a rough idea, however they do not have a pinpointed goal or dream. Therefore once some negative comment comes their way they immediately lose focus of the limited vision they had about their goal or dream. Whereas a person who knows what they want will never lose focus because the vision is so clear and vivid in their mind. Hence, it is vital that you know what it is that you want out of life and what you are after.
A good way to do this is by answering the following question…
If you could accomplish only one thing in life and it was guaranteed what would it be?
The answer to this question should equip you with the knowledge to develop a more clearer vision of what it is you aspire to achieve. Be as specific as possible. The reason why this works so well is because say you want to get somewhere. Think of a destination. Now compare getting there when you have the directions and when you don’t.
When you have directions you are less tempted to be distracted by distractions and will continue to stick on the right path until you reach your destination. On the flip side of the coin if you have a destination, but not a clear vision of how to get there you will be tempted to take one turn after another constantly asking for help and the advice you receive may or may not get you there. The first person with directions is the one with thick skin since they know exactly what they want and how to get there. Therefore they don’t need to pullover every two minutes and ask for help. Whereas the latter person constantly has to ask for directions and their route gets swayed according to what people tell them. This person therefore is more inclined to get off the right path. This is why you need to have a clear vision of what it is you want and how to get it.
The next step to developing thick skin is to realize that the comments made by others is not really about you instead it’s how they feel deep down about themselves. People have a desire to poke fun/criticize people for doing what they cannot do. Your rise to success is going to bring about these insecurities so you need to be prepared for them and realize that they aren’t about you at all. Instead the person is experiencing some unfortunate conflict internally. So simply let the negative comment roll off your back. Let it go. Keep your mind clean and clear.
Another point that goes hand in hand with the one just mentioned is to not respond to negativity. With that said however, you need to be aware of what constitutes as negativity and what constitutes as constructive criticism. Constructive criticism can be very beneficial to building yourself up to new heights so you need to use this information. On the other hand, you can’t get sucked into negativity. You need to separate the two. Use constructive criticism to launch you to new heights and forget negativity all together. If it isn’t something that can HELP you get better than don’t listen to it. Most peoples negativity is easy to detect since it comes in the form of insults and such whereas constructive criticism would point out some good things as well as things where you need to improve. Hence, it is important for you to forget the negative remarks and this can only be accomplished by not getting sucked up in the negativity. Keep your mind and your thoughts distant from negativity. When a horrendous thought pops up in your head, mentally hit delete and let it vanish from the depths of your memory.
Therefore to sum everything up the three ways you can greatly improve the thick skin you have is to develop a clear sense of where it is you aspire to be, develop laser focus, realize that the comments made by others is not about you, and lastly don’t respond back to the negative remarks and instead get revenge and the best form of revenge is success.