I would just like to wish everyone a Merry Christmas before we begin. Cherish these days and spend them with your loved ones. Now with that said, let’s get back to learning about how we can eliminate stress from our lives.
What Is Stress?
Before you can get rid of something you need to know what it is. A lot of the times we classify a lot of different emotions as being stress related, however in all actuality they are not. I think society has made stress seem like it’s a normal type of emotion that we all experience and that it’s a part of human nature. Some stress in our lives is absolutely normal and it is actually beneficial as well (health related).
This stress is called ‘positive’ stress. However, once we start stressing a little too much that’s when we run into problems and that’s when we get paralyzed by stress. This type of stress is referred to as ‘negative’ stress. In this article I will be teaching you a simple exercise you can do to eliminate this negative stress.
In general, stress is defined as:
“Stress is your body’s way of responding to any kind of demand. It can be caused by both good and good experiences. When people feel stressed by something going on around them, their bodies react by releasing chemicals into the blood. These chemicals give people more energy and strength, which can be a good thing if their stress is caused by physical danger. But this can also be a bad thing, if their stress is in response to something emotional and there is no outlet for this extra energy and strength.” (http://www.mtstcil.org/skills/stress-definition-1.html)
How Stress Affects Your Chances of Becoming Successful
Too much stress is the number one reason regarding why people fail to capitalize on opportunities. Instead of acting right now and assessing the situation as they go along, they worry themselves sick about all the pros and cons and whether or not it’s worth it. We all know what happens when we do that. When we finally come around to taking action (if at all) that opportunity is long gone.
Allow me to share a story about how stress led to one man losing millions. This man whose name no longer comes to mind was an exceptional creator who always worked to come up with new ideas and inventions. Some of them were garbage and others had potential. However, this man never released his inventions to the market. Instead, he was paralyzed by worry (common factor of stress). He would worry about all types of things which included fear of failure as well as fear of what others would think about him. He worried himself SICK and it’s obvious that the stress crippled him. He never did release the new invention to the market.
His life went on and the invention vanished to the back of his mind. As time progressed, he was watching TV one day and there was this man on one of these infomercials talking about his new product. That new product was the same one that man talked himself out of releasing to the market. Needless to say, that product went on to sell like crazy.
This story is VERY common.
I’m sure you yourself (me included) have come up with some ideas that resemble some new products out on the marketplace today, however you just failed to go for it. I used to always kick myself when I saw something new coming out on the market that I kind of thought about before. It used to fricken hurt. However, that’s what you get when you stress yourself out for no reason. I’m glad those days are behind me and now I exploit every opportunity I can get, because the worst is you can try and it didn’t work.
I would rather live with that than not trying and seeing years later that product surfacing and making millions.
I kind of got off topic thanks to that story. Anyways, let’s get back to eliminating stress.
How To Eliminate Stress
Here we go, get ready boys and girls.
Step 1) Take out a clear crisp sheet of paper
Step 2) Right down EVERYTHING that is on your mind right now. I mean everything. It doesn’t matter if it’s positive or negative. Just right it down. Clear your mind. Get all your thoughts down on paper. I try to write for about a good 15 minutes when I’m doing this exercise. Trust me, if you’re stuck at first keep at it. One thought will trigger another and on and on. But remember to write everything down.
Step 3) Analyze your list and pick out the worst of the worst. This could involve stressing about things such as going bankrupt if your business fails. Whatever it is, juts pick out the most terrifying things on your list. Try to pick out about 5-10 things.
Step 4) Write those horrendous things down on a new sheet of paper.
Step 5) Now read each one out and after you do so ask yourself the following question…
“What is the worst that can happen if this was to come true?”
Allow me to return to the previous example of going bankrupt if your business fails. Now what I would do if I had this worry was, I would read it out. Here goes … “GOING BANKRUPT IF MY BUSINESS FAILS” (I was using my ‘outside’ voice haha). Now next I would accept that it has come true. Damn, i’m bankrupt. Now, I proceed to ask myself “what is the worst that can occur now?” Just ask yourself that question and let your mind think. Trust me, your mind will begin to come up with all types of scenarios.
Some of the solutions my mind came up with are the following
– Move back with parents
– Get a little embarrassed
– Not being able to afford COD games (haha)
– Loosing friends
– Not being able to support myself (again, embarrassment)
Now, by doing that and coming up with the worst of the worst I realize that damn, that ain’t so bad. I mean embarrassment is common, I don’t really give a hoot about what people think anyways so take that off the list. What’s next? Oh moving back with your parents. Well that can be terrifying, however I realize that I’m still me and life still moves on and maybe that will be a blessing since it will give me the chance to reconnect with my parents. Keep going down the list and doing what I just did and you will soon realize that hey it’s not that bad. I mean come on look at all the shit you’ve overcame, are you going to let this little worry keep you down. HELL NO.
The repercussions are small compared to everything you have overcome in life. Its human nature to be faced with problems like these, however we somehow all seem to make a way out and continue. Don’t believe me? Look back at a time in your own life when you felt devastated. Maybe it was after a close family member died. You were without a doubt saddened by the loss, however look at you now. You’re stronger than ever. What you go through in life makes you who you are, don’t feel down about these issues, they made you into the person you are today. The more horrible shit you can endure, the stronger your character becomes, the stronger the character you possess, the greater self belief you have, and a high level of self belief results in an increased chance of becoming successful in life.